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A society which sees her modesty or her "hang-ups" as a problem is necessarily a society which will not be able to get him to commit. Conversely, a society which respected modesty, or what now goes by "hang-ups", was one in which men were obligated.Wendy Shalit
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Modesty answers not the crude how of femininity, but the beautiful why.Wendy Shalit
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If vulgarity is a game that begins by excluding women, but ultimately excludes men from themselves, modesty is the game both can play. It begins as a woman’s game — one, interestingly, where she appears to lose, to be ‘missing out’ — but really she invites a man to relate to her in a way that is both uniquely human and ultimately more erotic. So modesty maysuperficially seem just to be a woman’s game because it is one she must begin, but in playing it she invites men to relate to her in a different way, a way that ultimately means that the men win, too, because they are no longer cut off from adult masculinity.Wendy Shalit
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After all, the more women are developed internally, the more this is threatening to a society that insists on seeing them merely externally.Wendy Shalit
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The best protection against rape, stalking, and domestic violence is to raise men who both understand that women are different, and would never dare take advantage of this difference.Wendy Shalit